Yes, I went there.
Over the past few weeks I have had the privilege of getting to know friends more and more. I’ve even met use to be strangers, but who are now great friends! How have I done so? It’s a little trick I use called “ask questions and listen”. It sounds SOOOO Easy, but it’s a lot tougher than one may imagine.
As human beings, I believe deep down we crave to be known. Our souls cry out that “We Exist!”, “Look at me!”, “I want to be noticed!”, “My opinion matters!”, and much more. Do I hit a point? I can’t tell you how many times a kid in a PE class said “Coach! Look at me!”. That phrase never stops in a gym, especially at the elementary level.
Time…is precious. It’s priceless.
You know how our culture and lifestyles are so fast paced and always “on the go”.
When’s the last time someone actually wanted to get to know you? When’s the last time you actually wanted to get to know someone else? Asking and listening not for profit or benefit of self, but to simply be there. Not judge, criticize, degrade, or anything of that sort. It's so important for us as humans to verbalize our thoughts and feelings. This is a message not just for women, but men. Not to be "mushy", but just raw and real.
As human beings, I believe deep down we crave to be known. Our souls cry out that “We Exist!”, “Look at me!”, “I want to be noticed!”, “My opinion matters!”, and much more. Do I hit a point? I can’t tell you how many times a kid in a PE class said “Coach! Look at me!”. That phrase never stops in a gym, especially at the elementary level.
Time…is precious. It’s priceless.
You know how our culture and lifestyles are so fast paced and always “on the go”.
When’s the last time someone actually wanted to get to know you? When’s the last time you actually wanted to get to know someone else? Asking and listening not for profit or benefit of self, but to simply be there. Not judge, criticize, degrade, or anything of that sort. It's so important for us as humans to verbalize our thoughts and feelings. This is a message not just for women, but men. Not to be "mushy", but just raw and real.
As men, we don’t exactly have a good track record of our “selective hearing” abilities. The whole topic of “men not listening”, “men not caring”, and etc…is a frustrating subject. The passivity from others can kill us, because there’s no emotion, presence, or kind/challenging words. We filter out in our minds if what is being said to us Means Anything To Us. At certain times, it’s definitely the wrong approach.
I think the word I haven’t said yet is being INTENTIONAL!
We love talking about ourselves. Some of my friends reading this can attest at how much I am able to run my mouth. As Forrest Gump puts it...
I think the word I haven’t said yet is being INTENTIONAL!
We love talking about ourselves. Some of my friends reading this can attest at how much I am able to run my mouth. As Forrest Gump puts it...
"I'd jabber on like a monkey in a tree"
What do you feel when someone actually wants to get to know you? You may feel welcomed, grateful, relieved, encouraged, that you mean something to someone, and base of what I’ve already mentioned…known.
As I’m typing this, I realize I’m challenging myself the same as everyone else. I know I have not listened intentionally to others in my past. However, I realize the devastation I may have created and desire to be more intentional through one reason. Love.
As I’m typing this, I realize I’m challenging myself the same as everyone else. I know I have not listened intentionally to others in my past. However, I realize the devastation I may have created and desire to be more intentional through one reason. Love.
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