Does anything I say sound familiar, or you're just wondering what's wrong with my thinking pattern? Maybe this status could be an actual physical place or region on the Earth, or a place of one's mindset. Maybe this is where you're at now? It's something I've seen, sensed, and experienced all over the world. So, I know it's not specifically called a city or status.
I've learned that the best thing to do is challenge those in the place of ? with tough questions followed up by words of encouragement and consistently being there for support and challenge. This does involve sacrifice of someone's time and energy.
You can show them the "door" to the "outside", but it's up to them if they leave or stay, and you can't keep/share/store up the problems that may/will come based on their decisions.
Maybe these thoughts have been a good read for you, or maybe you're thinking I've lost my mind. Wherever you are, keep moving forward.